"I NEVER THOUGHT THAT IT WOULD COME TO THIS."
The divorce process, while emotional, difficult and unsettling, can be managed collaboratively in ways that support mental health, preserve relationships and ensure financial security.
Sue is associated with leading professionals in the divorce field including certified divorce financial planners and lawyers who believe in a collaborate and empathic approach. Sue provides the mental health support and refers her clients to associates who specialize in financial planning and divorce law who will treat her clients with dignity, care and respect. Sue also works with adolescents within divorcing families.
Divorce facts: Divorce is second only to the death of a spouse on the stress scale.
The emotional stages of divorce may include denial, isolation, grief, anger, depression, guilt, and finally acceptance.
For young and adolescent children, divorce raises the risk of experiencing mental health problems by 30% (Andrew Cherlin, Ph.D., Johns Hopkins)
Continued exposure of children of all ages to parental conflict during and after divorce can have adverse emotional effects.
How to remedy stress: Do's and Don'ts
Don't underestimate the impact of stress on your physical and emotional well-being.
Don't run from your emotions. Give yourself permission to feel your anger, sorrow, fear, and sadness. Suppressing emotion breeds resentment, guilt and shame.
Don't isolate. Do seek out friends and family who can provide comfort and support.
Do spend some time with a professional counselor who can help you process your emotions so that you don't stay stuck in denial, grief, anger, or depression.
If you are contemplating or are in the process of a divorce it is vital that you take care of your mental and emotional health. Often during this time of conflict and upset, decisions are made that may not be in your or your family's best interest over the long-run. It is important to get grounded emotionally so that you can think clearly and make reasonable decisions about your future and your family's future.